The Date is Set! Let's Get Ready for your Vetting.

We've chatted a bit about what you're looking to experience and now, it's time for the in person interview.

I've sent you the address for dinner and instructed you on what time I'd like to see you.

While that first meeting can feel like a stuffy job interview, I want you to re-frame it. It’s a vibe check. A chance for Me to see if you're as interesting as your email was, and for you to see if My brand of chaos is something you can actually handle. It’s less of an exam and more of the first, tiny sip of a very strong cocktail.

Can you Just Be Normal?

What I enjoy most are people who are authentically themselves. The mind chatter can get wild trying to be the "perfect submissive," but all that noise just gets in the way. Seeing it in front of Me makes Me cringe. The goal here is a genuine spark. I need to see you, peer into you. If you wriggle too much that makes things a bit awkward.

Here are some helpful hints.

• Don't Perform (inauthentically) for Me. The person who uses all the right words and agrees with everything I say is a concern. I once had a client who got so excited explaining his work that he knocked over his drink. He was dorky, passionate, and real. He helped staff clean up the mess and double checked that I was alright. Guess who got a second meeting?
  

• The Waiter is Also Vetting You. I’m not kidding. If you’re rude or dismissive to the person bringing us our food, you’ve failed. A person’s true character comes out in how they treat people they don't have to impress. I see everything. The tip? Yes, I'm judging you on that as well. A generous doll is a good doll.
  

• Ask Me a Real Question. Ask me something that shows you've actually read My blog or read My fetlife writings. Ask me about a new dress I mentioned or a book I'm reading. Show me you're curious about the person, not just the persona.
  

That Time I Was Genuinely Charmed

I met with a potential client once who was a total wreck. He was fidgeting, talking a mile a minute, a beautiful, anxious mess. Halfway through the appetizer, he just sighed, looked at Me and said, "I'm so sorry, I'm just really in my head. I've thought about this for a long time."

he didn't say it to be charming. he said it because he was flustered and the thought just fell out of his mouth. he wanted to be vulnerable because that's what most people actually crave. To be seen.

That is what I like right there. That unplanned, honest, vulnerable little moment. That was the entire point. The performance stopped and a real person appeared. We both laughed, the tension vanished, and we had a fantastic rest of the dinner. He proved he wasn't afraid to be a little bit imperfect. The session turned out to be playful with lots of giggles. I adore those.

The Official Roadmap (So We're All on the Same Page)

Alright, how does this process work? It's not some big secret. It's a professional process designed to make sure we're a perfect match.

1. Your First Move. It all starts with you. You'll visit my website and fill out the inquiry form. This is your opening line. Make it a good one.
   

2. The Vetting. If your inquiry piques my interest, we'll schedule our vetting dinner. This is the main event we've been talking about, where we see if the chemistry is right.
   

3. The Main Event. If the vibe is right for both of us (and yes, I have to like you too) then, and only then, can we discuss scheduling a session. Typically, this will be talked through over dinner (or lunch or coffee or, you get it) and you will make a deposit to save your spot.

The Terms of Surrender

For those of you thinking about taking the plunge but are scared of this first step, I want you to stop worrying about passing the tests. My job is to judge you, to see if you're worthy. That is why you sought Me out, to be seen. It's more dangerous than it seems. If you pass, that means you're likely up for the challenge. If not, this saves you from your soul being laid bare before you're ready. Your call to action is to just show up and be interesting. You're not just trying to prove you're a good submissive; you're trying to prove you're worth My time and energy.

You’re not just being vetted. You’re auditioning.

Don't be boring. Pique My Interest

The process begins with your words. This is your chance to show Me the person behind the screen and prove you're as interesting as you think you are.

Start the Process