Beyond "Hey": The Pro Guide to Spotting Green Flag Submissives

“Hey.”

This single word is sent My way by subs several times a day. What I’m supposed to do with this kind of message remains a mystery. What doesn’t is their eligibility for a reply, it’s always none.

Professionals of all kinks and kinds open the same message with the same single word.

“Hey.”

This is a (insert chosen honorific here)’s first and most blaring clue that this submissive isn’t ready for the kind of energy that’s required to serve.

When looking for the right submissive it’s crucial to spot who’s wasting your time and who’s worthy to serve at Your feet. Let’s go over a few green flags together.

Green Flag #1

Getting to know You

Typically, when a submissive is serious about establishing a dynamic, they will take the time to get to know who You are first. What style of Domination and service do You showcase the most? What are some hobbies or interests that will work well together? Perhaps they look through your socials and click with Your personality. It’s even possible they’ve watched You for years, silently working up the courage to initiate that first message. Whichever way they get there, an earnest submissive will always do their homework first. A good submissive is interested in you as a person, not just an extension of their kinks.

For example, a good first message would go something like this:

Hello (insert chosen honorific here),

my name is (*&^$$*#@*U) I love the content you've been putting out lately, especially what you wrote about vore the other day. i'm a sub based in (&^$3*&$) and your style seems exactly like what i'm looking for. do you have an active onboarding process or a form I can fill out?

That’s it. It doesn’t have to be overly flowery or elaborate (though I personally love those).

It simply must be respectful and follow any contact rules you have.

Green Flag #2

No Haggling the Basics

At the core of everything We do, no matter what flavor, there is an exchange between parties (skills, emotional labor, energy, time, money etc.) This should be understood by a good submissive or client before they even think of requesting Your time. A good exchange is where everyone receives what it is they need to have fun and feel fulfilled.

This starts with a submissive not haggling Your prices or pushing clear boundaries.

If you’ve set your session prices, they should be more than willing to pay that. If You requested they contact You in a specific way, they should do that.

No negging, no whining, no guilt trips.

The joy of serving is just that, serving. If they want to devote themselves to you, they will rush to fill that requirement with glee.

Paying You what You’re worth and following the rules is the bare minimum and if a submissive can’t do that, what do they have in exchange for Your time, skills, energy (and on and on)?

Nothing.

Green Flag #3: No Free Text-Baiting

“I love you in those platforms. I’ve had this fantasy about *%&* and can’t stop thinking about you. What would you do if I let you put me in a cage while you teased me with those on and….”

“Looking for a slave to worship your leather ass?”

“I'd like to have you dominate me. Pegging, face sitting, I eat pussy good I also have a &%^%$I* and can cum multiple times with stamina.”

No. no no no nooooooo

These are all real bits from messages I’ve received and let Me tell you what they are.

A trap.

You answer a few flirty messages only for that to go on and on and on until you’re depleted and have nothing in hand. They tend to beg, draw out free chatting time and dangle what You want in front of You.

Whether it’s to feed their ego, waste Your time, or feel a little less lonely, they offer nothing. No worship, no respect, no cash. The goal here for this type of “submissive” is to use You as a free kink dispenser, ew.

Don’t fall for that.

A worthy type of submissive knows that your inbox is for logistics, vetting and on-boarding. They will make sure You have what You need before asking for anything at all.

Green Flag #4: No Lazy Answers

A good submissive or client is self-aware, and they don’t expect You to do the heavy mental lifting for them. “Whatever You want.”, should not be their reply when You ask what it is they desire. This answer (and various other wishy washy responses) means they are too lazy to think and if that’s the case, they’re too lazy to care if this is a good exchange or not. Which can lead to trouble.

Worthy submissives know their own mind, boundaries, hard/soft limits and specific triggers they respond to. Even if they’re new, they should have a basic understanding of what makes them tick.

After the foundation is established, We can then expand on those desires. That’s the magic.

Let’s Wrap Up

What We professionals do is a craft and what We provide is a unique and intimate experience. It’s a luxury and should be treated as such. Protecting the integrity of Your work is just as important as advertising, Your camera, costumes and toys (and on and on, We do so much). Never feel guilty for protecting your space because it is the foundation for a good session and green flag clients deserve that as much as We do.

Good sessions and green flags rarely start with “Hey.”